For many years I had regular Friday night social gatherings of close friends. We'd often vent our frustrations at the stupidity of the system around us that glorified superficial choices and failed to support people.  Sometimes we just hung out, other times we'd work on a project together.  We'd show up at a friends house with five vehicles for  a one-day household move that ended with pizza and laughter instead of frustration and stubbed toes.  We had movie nights and made mead and hosted dinne …